I believe I can hear God’s whisper in these Threads, and when I seek to follow them, I experience more and more of His presence… Hello!...

In recovery work, a lot of relational pain doesn’t start with what actually happened. It starts with what we think  happened. A tone. A look. Silence. A vague comment like “I want more intimacy.” A partner who seems distant. A spouse who looks at their phone and suddenly feels unreachable. In couples impacted by sex addiction , porn addiction , and betrayal trauma , these moments can hit like a shockwave—because the nervous system is already on high alert. Before we know it,

If you’ve ever tried to change a behavior you’ve hidden for years, you know this: freedom isn’t just about stopping the acting out. Freedom is about living in the light. For men struggling with sexual addiction, secrecy isn’t a side issue—it’s often the environment the addiction needs to survive. And for betrayed spouses, secrecy isn’t just frustrating—it’s traumatic. It fractures reality. It creates a world where the person you trusted became unsafe, and your instincts learn

One of the most common experiences for both men struggling with sex addiction and women who have been betrayed is a deep sense of unsafety . It shows up in different ways—panic, anxiety, hypervigilance, control, despair—but underneath it all is the same question: Am I safe right now? Anxiety and fear are not character flaws. They are signals. They function like warning lights on the dashboard, alerting us that something inside of us perceives danger. When we feel unsafe, our

What does it mean to stay in my hoop? If you’ve been around Faithful & True for a while, you’ve probably heard us talk about the three hoops . It’s a simple visual model, but it has huge implications for how we relate, especially in hurting or complicated relationships. Quick refresher: Hoop 1:  My hoop – my thoughts, feelings, needs, beliefs, values, choices and everything about what makes me "me" Hoop 2:  Your hoop – your thoughts, feelings, needs, beliefs, values, choices

What specific small steps might you take to make this a different year for you? Happy New Year! There is an adrenalin for me as I...

What did you learn about having needs when you were young? What did you learn about having needs when you were young? In our work...

"What I did know after that first night of group was I had found a ‘home’—a place where safe women and a very gifted therapist began...

The Importance of "Checking in" with your Inner Child A year or so into my own recovery, as a fellow group member was processing an...

Developing a Clinical & Theological Approach to Shedding Shame In Genesis, one of the descriptions of paradise is a place where the...